Retrain your brain. It takes so little time and effort (just 20 seconds a day every day even helps!), but it has such BIG rewards.
I was reading yesterday, “Cynicism is a way to trigger dopamine when other ways fall short. If you tell yourself, ‘It’s all so unfair,’ you can always find evidence to prove it. Thus, you create expectations you can meet, and it feels good.”✳️
I’d never thought about that before, but it explains so much! It’s like setting the bar low (or negative) so you can feel good about reaching it. You’re never disappointed if your expectations are always that things are bad. So it’s a win-win. If things are bad, you feel good because you’re right! But if things are unexpectedly good, defying your expectations, you feel even better because it’s an unexpected reward (which = more dopamine). Hence, cynicism.
✳️The Science of Positivity by Loretta Graziano Breuning.